Creating the balance that is perfect for you is tough. As busy moms we tend to want to be there and be everything for our families as well has have our full-time career putting demands on us. This can definitely take a toll on our bodies and our minds.
There is a tendency to believe that in order to be successful at one
thing you have to give something else up. I have to admit that I fell into this belief myself; what I found was that I ended up feeling worse than when I started. The truth is that you can be successful at anything, including work and weight loss without giving other things, like family time, up.
Sometimes, if not most of the time our struggle to find that balance will lead us to burnout; burnout on our weight loss, burnout on our work, and burnout with our family obligations. So, where then do you find the balance?
In today’s society the lines between work and play become even more blurred as we cling to our cell phones where work has a chance to call us, we rely on the clock to tell us when something needs to be done, and we have that CEO or work related crisis that calls upon us to work during our vacation. This does not matter if you are a short order cook, a business owner, a lawyer, marketer, or stay-at-home mom. The lives of others are constantly trying to dictate how our lives turn out.
It is time for you to take back control and find that work-family life balance that includes your weight loss goals.
Here are some ways that you can take back control:
- Creating a balance does not mean that you spend equal amounts of time on everything. That is just insane. Instead you want to start by figuring how much time you spend your time. Take a day to determine what amount of your day is dedicated to each area: work, family, & weight loss/health. Then, determine where you need to make the adjustments based on what you feel is right. By trusting yourself to make the decision based on what feels right, your life will begin to feel more balanced.
- Sometimes you may change the amount of time you spend on something. If you are just starting out on your weight loss journey, you may need to spend one or two days completely focused on creating a plan for this. Yes, you may have to spend more time than planned on that sick child, or you may have a project at work with a deadline in a couple days. Life does happen, to help keep yourself feeling balanced know that you are not always going to be focused on that one project, sick child or weight loss so the extra time you are putting in right now is okay.
- Your perfect balance is not going to be the same as someone else’s work-family balance. Find what works best for you and your family. Never feel that you have to have the same balance as your best friend, co-worker or even spouse.
- Depending on which stage of life you are in, your balance will be different as well. You will not always have a weight loss goal, at some point it is going to change to weight maintenance so be sure you allow yourself flexibility. As your life changes your balance will change as well. Some of you may already know this, but as you have a new baby in the house things will change even if it is your second or third child; remember to be okay with having to adjust your balance again.
Finding that perfect work-family balance is a continual state of flux because once you think you have it all figured out, something changes. Do not beat yourself up when this happens, instead think of it as a time to rebalance your life and find what feels best for you again. I find that when I am becoming really stressed about one particular thing, it is time for me to go back and rebalance my life.
Do you feel completely out of balance? If so, what are you going to do about it? Leave your answer in the comment section.